If your pitch is designed to convince anyone of your value, you’ve already lost.
Over three decades as a film and TV casting director, I made the call on close to half a million auditions. And that same turning point decided almost every one of them. It holds for every kind of outreach: business, personal, political, commercial. I’ll distill it here so you don’t have to sit through half a million auditions to get the same benefit.
Everything reduces down to the intention. And that ALWAYS manifests as either being an aspiration to get something they don’t already have…or… an intent to share something they already possess. In the casting room, I held the thing of value: the role. But when an actor came in sharing something real instead of angling for the part, that flipped. Suddenly I wanted what they had. The leverage of the entire situation changed on a dime.
Most people find performing impressive. But in that room, it was a "tell." Performing is a gambit, a means to an end. It’s seeking disguised as confidence. And the same is true for the rest of us, athletes included. Try to impress and you’re really just seeking something you think you’re missing. Not sharing what you already have. Intent shapes value.
Imagine someone handing out restaurant flyers on the street. Unless the place just opened, you wonder why it isn’t already full. Now imagine a friend who just ate there telling you that you HAVE to try the dish they’re known for. One is seeking something. The other is simply sharing what they already value so you can experience it too. I’ll leave to you which one gets you through the door.
Marketing efforts and media grooming try to make athletes more impressive in the spotlight. That’s adding, and audiences read it as seeking. Or, athletes default to conformity. The work I do goes in the direction my advertising clients valued. In 30 years, not one of them paid for impressive. They paid for what was real. Every athlete already has an authentic version of themselves that shows up in a one-on-one conversation, not trying to impress anyone or get anything. I remove what gets in the way when the spotlight hits, so that same person shows up.
Brand alignment is assumed to come solely from the visibility that on-field/court excellence generates. But that’s just the ticket of entry. An endorsement is a recommendation, but it’s only worth the pre-earned believability preceding it. When an athlete consistently shows something real in their media moments, the leverage flips, like it did in the casting room. The sponsor is actually attaching themselves to a track record of authenticity. Without that, the athlete is just the guy handing out restaurant flyers.
Shaq, Manning and Barkley weren’t the only greats of their era who had visibility. But they’re the ones sponsors still line up for, because nothing ever got in the way of what was real. That’s what they keep paying for. Everything else is just trying.
In a word: Forgettable.